If you are not good at something after repeated tries quit trying!!

Now Now what did we learn from our elders, try try try and you will succeed. Well does this work. Let me tell you very frankly and honestly IT DOES!! And well let’s listen to a short story…


Once upon a time a king lost a battle and his kingdom and went into hiding in a cave in a dense forest. Days passed by, he just hid in the cave doing nothing, one day he saw a spider trying to climb a stretch through a single thread of its web. It tried to climb but fell down, it started to climb again but fell down again. All this time the king was watching the spiders. He thought that the spider might not climb up to the top, but to his amazement, the spider kept on trying to climb. It fell down nine times, but on the tenth time, it managed to climb up to the top. The king felt ashamed of himself and started to make [plans for his conquest again. He started to build his army declared war against those who took his kingdom away from him. He lost again. But he didn’t stop at that. He started to build up his army again. It’s said that he won exactly on the tenth time as the spider did.


Well success comes to those who are persistent. This statement is very true. But does this statement contradict today’s topic. The answer may be yes or may be no depending upon our choice. I have always said and will always continue to say life is all about the choices we make. Let me elaborate a bit more with my own example. Suppose I have 5 subjects to study in high school Communication Skills, Algebra, Physics, Chemistry, Programming in C. Out of these five subjects, I am good at four but not even remotely good at Algebra. I was never good at mathematics. Not once did I felt like I understand the subject. My father used to say try harder, try harder you can be good at mathematics. I studied mathematics all through my high school but was never good at it. Its not like I didn’t try but it never worked for me. For success to come a person must know his strengths and more so his weakness.


Many a times weakness can be countered and many a times not. It takes lots of strength and help to counter a weakness. Now enough moving here and there about the topic, lets come straight to the point. We live in 21st century, life is pretty fast as compared to the even 20 years before. Every day we are pitched to compete with everyone on various tasks. Along with all this, we have to keep up with our social lives too. Too much for a normal human huh??


I am not a philosopher, I cannot tell you what is right or wrong, But I can tell you what worked for me. I stopped concentrating on my weakness. I just kept so much time for them that it doesn’t get any worse. I started to concentrate more on my strength. It also gives you a feel good factor as you spend more time doing what you like, not what you don’t like. So always play with your strengths, do not concentrate on something which is beyond your comfort zone. Seriously you do not have the time for it.


A Typical Conversation Between Me & Myself..

Well, here is it, the conversation I had with myself. There are two persons in this conversations. Me and the inner voice.

Me : Tell me what I am supposed to do.

Myself : But you already, know what to do.

Me : But you know that I don’t want to do it.

Myself : Really, You think so.

Me : I mean I am not exactly sure, if I want to do it or not.

Myself : Tell me what would give you the most satisfaction.

Me : Well but I am not doing it for any satisfaction, You know this.

Myself : May be you are.

Me : No, I am sure. Well the only satisfaction, is knowing the end result, it might be the best option for me. I have figured out about the other alternaMyselfes too. But in the end this path would help me to reach where I want to, even if I don’t like the path.

Myself : I guess, you are having inhibitions about this path from the beginning only, then how are you going to achieve this.

Me : Its true that I don’t like the idea. I would have to play completely against my strengths. By far, I feel that it would be very difficult.

Myself : The end result would be ofcourse depend on what choice you make, but if you don’t make a correct choice now, your end result would be completely different than what you are hoping right now! Plus you have doubts about the plan you have chosen.

Me : know that right now my mind might be filled with endless doubts. If I should do it or not, Have I choosen the correct path or not, would I be able to pull it through, would the end justify the means, is it really worth to play against your strengths, would I have to leave everything I like. But there is something, which I guess would help me pull through.

Myself : And what may that be?

Me : guess you already know that…

Myself : Well if you are so sure of achieving your goal, then i guess, the ends would justify the means for you. Best of luck and remember your weaknesses will become your strength only if you respect them.

Me : will remember that.